How to NOT Start a Mommy Group

Ever wish that You could have Your own mommy group – build friends, invite them over to hang out, and have a great support team? Yeah, I have, too. It sounds simple, but it’s actually a lot harder than one would think. Here are three common errors to starting a mommy group:

1 – Not building relationships with the moms Before you invite them over.

This is crucial – not really knowing the other person and them not really knowing you can lead to low numbers and low satisfaction with the group. Plus, you wanna be selective about who you invite – you’re forming your personal group of friends!

To avoid this common error:

When you see other moms at the grocery store, posting in a moms and babies yard sale Facebook page, or at your church, do a little pre-interview. Ask at least three questions like the following:

Where are you from and what’s it like there? (This will help you know if they’re a gossip junkie, like to stay to themselves, or are used to the busy life).

What’s your favorite thing about your child? (This is a quick way to find out the mom’s personality – Is she negative and condescending? She’ll probably put in a jab about her kid or herself. Will she bring something of value to the group? What’s important to her about her child is most likely directly related to what’s important to her in general).

What is a current dream/goal they’re working on? (Do you have similar goals? If you have a hard time with exercising – do you really want to spend a significant amount of time with a long-time marathon runner? I know I’d rather hang out with someone who’s in a similar situation as me who also wants to change it. Of course, one goal not in common doesn’t mean you wouldn’t make great friends. You’ll get a feel for what’s right for you.)

2 – Trying too hard to find a time that works with their schedule.

I’ve done this. I really wanted everyone to be able to come so I could have the largest mommy group possible (well, more than one attending). It just made it awkward – I was putting out way too much pressure for people to come.

To avoid this common error:

Pick a time that works great for you, especially if you’ll be deep cleaning your house once or twice a week. Invite people you see until you have a large enough group. Just never stop reaching out to people who could attend until you’re satisfied with your group size.

3 – Not having a main goal or purpose.

If your goal is to meet and chat as women and moms, that’s a goal! Just make sure there’s one in place and that it’s steered towards.

To avoid this common error:

Take some time and figure out what’s deeply and truly important to you. If you know this, you’ll naturally gravitate towards people who have similar values and they’ll be more interested in spending time at your house for a mommy group.

What are some things you have done that have helped or hindered starting a mommy group of your own?


The Biggest Difference Between a Successful Business and a Bottomless Pit Business

There is one major difference between lastingly successful businesses and those that fail. It’s not budgeting right, having the best motto, treating your employees better than the other guys, or the coolest product. It’s the why you’re in business.

You’ve seen it – the waiter that’s impatient with the customer and the cleaner that can’t handle a complaint well. Why are they working? – for money. That’s it. Those that give poor customer service and products are most likely in it for money. They’re not seeing their customers as people with lives and stresses, but as walking wallets.

So, how do we clear this attitude – and what is it that truly makes a business work? Love. Cheesy and cliche as it is, it’s true. Now, I don’t mean romantic love – the workplace isn’t the place for that. What I do mean is that unconditional and pure love that cares about people and motivates. This love engenders a passion for the business.

People that are filled with love, or passion, for their job, service, and product attract customers. Who would you rather buy a car from – the guy who looks bored, pushes you to buy the most expensive car, or the one who can describe how the car works, feels, and how it’ll be the best investment for you or your family? I’d rather buy a car from someone who’s truly excited about cars.

The passionate owner teaches management how to love the business, who in turn teaches the employees to love it. It’s a chain that continually needs to be shared.
Two more notes – what to do if you don’t find a passion in your business and what if you try too hard.

What to Do if You Don’t Find a Passion in Your Business
This happens. And for many reasons. Burnout in any aspect of your life can fry your dreams and goals. If you’re intensely burnt out, maybe it’s time to seek help outside of yourself, like counseling.

Another reason is not having clear goals, dreams, and values for your company. If you relate here, take some time to ponder what you really want in life – what you would do if money wasn’t a matter. Ask trusted friends what they see matters the most to you (assuming they want what’s best for you, not trying to put their agendas on you). Create a vision for your company by creating a mission statement.

Last note – what do you do if you’ve tried all of the above and the success just isn’t flowing how you’d like it. There are three likely reasons here. The first two are easy – it takes time with persistence and sometimes the service or product is simply undesirable in your market. The third is harder – it could be you.

But I’m already working my tail off for this company and for Jefe, and I’m just not getting anything back! – you might say something like this. It’s more common than you know. My answer – I don’t think you need a better degree to get the results you want, just change what you are doing with your attitude and how you ask for respect. Attitude and respect, which is love actually, are essential for a successful business.

What kind of attitude burns out a business? The “please buy something attitude.” It is so awkward to go into a store, that’s usually empty, and have the salesclerk stare at you the whole time saying “please let me help you. I’m so bored!” with her eyes. No one wants to feel like a watched ham. It is so calm to go into a store where the clerk is excited to be there, but is actually busy doing something small or simple. This says, “Hey, I love this place. I’m taking care of it. You’re safe here.” The attitude that wins is the “I love this business” attitude.

What kind of respect do businesses need? Don’t be too pushy or needy to make the sale. You don’t need to mark the price down unless the customer asks. You don’t need to make something better unless the customer says something is wrong. Worry about yourself first and things will tend to naturally take care of themselves.

So, wherever you are at in boosting the passion you have for your business, you’re doing great! It’s definitely a journey. I bet it takes at least 3 tries to find a business or plan that you’re truly passionate about. Pretend your working your dream job while you’re building up to your actual dream job – it’ll pay you abundantly in time.



If you wanna be successful, be passionate about the product or service you provide! Don’t get distracted trying to serve your employees more than your customers, trying to ‘make’ your customers buy your product, or focusing on too many things that don’t matter the most.




Good luck everyone! Thanks for listening to my opinions on how to have a successful business.

– Cutesie

Awesome Free Product Trials from Seventh Generation


Information on how YOU can test run free product is found below.

I love natural, sensitive products. But they’re hard to find at young-parent prices. I heard about Seventh Generation’s free product party and entered immediately – turns out they’re sending me a free trial of laundry detergent and baby wipes for as easy as signing up and answering a few questions. I thought I wasn’t going to get a sample unless I won a spot as a party host. Which, who wouldn’t want to? I’d love to show my friends this amazing product.

I’ve been using their dish soap for a month or so now. Its gentle enough to wash my hands with, without the overdrying of typical dish soap, and strong enough to wash all our dishes – which adds up fast with our family (our baby just became a toddler).

So, here’s the official information so you can try, too!

What is a Healthy Baby Home Party? 

Seventh Generation’s home parties are powered by people like you who are focused on creating a healthy environment for the next generation. Developed with input from non-profit partner, Healthy Child Healthy World, they are a great way to get together with friends, share helpful information, and make an impact!

Healthy Baby Home Party kits are provided to all selected hosts and are filled with educational info about our environment, helpful tips, a fun game, and samples and coupons from Seventh Generation and other favorite family-friendly brands like bobble, Plum Organics and Zarbee’s Naturals.

What is the Application Process?

Sign up at to join the Generation Good community, or log in if already a member.

Accept the Healthy Baby Home Party Application offer on your Generation Good dashboard and complete the application. Applicants will be notified by end of March if they have been selected to host a party, via an email to the email address assigned to their Generation Good member profile.
All selected applicants will then need to confirm their participation by accepting the Healthy Baby Home Party Mission in Generation Good and confirming their shipping address.

1,900 FREE Party Kits will be distributed in this round.Hosting spots are open to US residents only at this time. Canadian parties are planned for later in 2016!
Full terms and conditions are available within Generation Good in the “Healthy Baby Home Party Application” offer.


Why I Don’t Want My Kids to Be Ahead of Their Age

Little pumpkins need room to grow at their own pace.

There’s a lot of hype out there that compares children, especially babies, based on when they achieve developmental milestones. “My baby is walking at 8 1/2 months.” “Well, my baby can feed herself with a spoon, and she’s 10 months old.” “Oh, ya? My baby’s 5 months old and sings the alphabet on pitch!” You know, you’ve heard it.

I used to be way excited hearing that my baby was ahead of schedule in certain aspects – as if it was something of my own making that she was enthusiastic about developing.

But, then I took a moment to think.

What will it be like in 10 years if my baby continues to feel pressure to be ahead if the rest?

Would she have friends? Probably not that many, she’d be too busy trying to be the star on her preteen basketball team, acing her honor roll calculus class, and working too hard to please some infinitely far away standard. So, no, she wouldn’t have time to make or keep friends – she probably wouldn’t even be sure how to!

That’s about what I did growing up – and I missed out on some wonderful opportunities to really get to know the people around me. To hear their stories, to find encouraging role models, and to really connect on a deep level with friends. I don’t want my kids to be so caught up in becoming intelligent, better than others, or extremely awesome that they lose touch of the people around them.

And what about life – would she actually enjoy life? Ask any professional who works in a highly demanding industry if they take time to enjoy the simple beauties of life, and I’ll bet you that the majority if them don’t. And a lot don’t even try.

We were born into this life to learn and to enjoy being alive. We most enjoy life when we’re connected with the world around us – emotionally and with the five senses. Smelling a rose, tasting fresh baked chocolate chip cookie, watching and listening to waves crashing on a beach, and feeling the tenderness of holding a loved one’s hand. There is so much to be enjoyed! I don’t want my kids to be so attached to being seen as successful that they don’t know how to enjoy life before they’re successful. I want them to live.

And does it really matter? To some degree – yes. Reaching milestones and striving to be great are perfect opportunities to praise our children. Everyone could use extra praise for their efforts and appreciation for their hard work. But in the long run, whether or not they take and pass geometry in middle school isn’t going to matter. What matters most is character built, relationships formed, and experience received.

So, I’m not going to pressure my kids to be better than the rest. They need friends and to know what healthy friendship looks and feels like. They need to have room to fully connect with their life – emotionally and with their senses. Also, it doesn’t really matter in the long run if they don’t have every success.